Daily Archives: 12/02/2006

Yesterday & Today

Yesterday and today were very difficult for me.

I did much better than expected at the one month anniversary and during Thanksgiving than I thought I would.

But the minute we hit December, everything went south.

It started last night and didn’t end until about 7 PM tonight.

I couldn’t think straight, wasn’t thinking things out, and wasn’t thinking clearly.

I did go out and buy 5 book shelves for the office. Then I proceeded to try to move the entertainment unit that was in the office. I was having a problem with it and shouldn’t have been trying to do it alone. Of course, I shouldn’t have carried five 100 lb boxes upstairs by myself either. The entertainment unit fell apart. I had taken some screws out of it to take off the doors. This would lighten it up somewhat. But when I went to move it, it snapped. We were going to give it away to someone and I ruined it. I had to take it apart, then carry it outside.

Nora wasn’t pleased with me when she got home. Actually, she should have been very mad with what I did, but she let it pass. She helped me put four of the units together and told me it was OK. She saw I wasn’t in good shape.

I might use the other fifth shelf that I bought, but only use the shelves. Sometimes these units leave too much space between shelves, especially if you have a lot of paperbacks. I might open it up and add the shelves to the existing units. That is probably what I’ll do.

But I sure did a mess of stupid things today. At one point I was driving along and had to pull on the side of the road. It just came out of nowhere.

Yesterday, I did receive a shipment of books from ChristianBooks.com. One was on grief. It is a short book that I might try to read tomorrow. Hopefully I can find some comfort and some ideas on how to get throught this better than I’m currently doing.

It’s like I’m still just putting one foot in front of the other and taking steps. I’m still walking in a daze.

Sometimes it helps, just to get it out of me through the blog. I’m off to bed. Tomorrow I go out and buy an entertainment unit for the person we were supposed to give ours to. It’s the least I can do.

Right now the office is still a mess. I have stuff everywhere. Tomorrow, after we go shopping, I’ll go to the attic and bring the rest of the books down to the office. I’ll also bring the ones in from the spare bedroom. With a little luck the office will be looking good tomorrow afternoon.

I sure hope so. The 5 units cost about $250.

I’m off to bed. I hope I can move tomorrow morning. Right now I ache from head to toe.

Memory Verse: Matthew 7:1

Currently I’m reading Matthew, the first book of the New Testament. I’ll be posting a verse or series of verses that I find worthy of memorization. While many people use various translations, I’m from the old school. I believe that any scripture memorization should only be from the King James Version.

  • Matthew 7:1 KJV Judge not, that ye be not judged.

    My initial comments – Here is another difficult verse to understand. It sounds straight forward and clear; however, elsewhere in the bible we learn not to be around wicked men. Don’t we have to form some form of judgement to do that? Thankfully, the commentaries below clarify the true meaning of the passage for me. Robert’s Word Pictures explanation sums it all up in a very quick manner.

    The People’s New Testament commentary explains it this way:
    Mat 7:1 –
    Judge not, that you be not judged. The term ‘judge’ is used in more than one sense, but Christ’s meaning is plain. 1. He does not prohibit the civil judgment of the courts upon evil doers, for this is approved throughout the whole Bible. 2. He does not prohibit the judgment of the church, through its officers, upon those who walk disorderly, for both he and the apostles have enjoined this. 3. He does not forbid those private judgments that we are compelled to form the wrong-doers, for he himself tells us that we are to judge men by their fruits. (See Mat 7:15-20.) What he designs to prohibit is rash, uncharitable judgments, a fault-finding spirit, a disposition to condemn without examination of charges.

    Robert’s Word Pictures explains:
    Mat 7:1 –
    Judge not (mē krinete). The habit of censoriousness, sharp, unjust criticism. Our word critic is from this very word. It means to separate, distinguish, discriminate. That is necessary, but pre-judice (prejudgment) is unfair, captious criticism.

    Barnes explains:
    Mat 7:1 –
    Judge not …- This command refers to rash, censorious, and unjust judgment. See Rom 2:1. Luke Luk 6:37 explains it in the sense of ‘condemning.’ Christ does not condemn judging as a magistrate, for that, when according to justice, is lawful and necessary. Nor does he condemn our ‘forming an opinion’ of the conduct of others, for it is impossible ‘not’ to form an opinion of conduct that we know to be evil. But what he refers to is a habit of forming a judgment hastily, harshly, and without an allowance for every palliating circumstance, and a habit of ‘expressing’ such an opinion harshly and unnecessarily when formed. It rather refers to private judgment than ‘judicial,’ and perhaps primarily to the customs of the scribes and Pharisees.

    Clarke writes:
    Mat 7:1 –
    Judge not, that ye be not judged – These exhortations are pointed against rash, harsh, and uncharitable judgments, the thinking evil, where no evil seems, and speaking of it accordingly. The Jews were highly criminal here, and yet had very excellent maxims against it, as may be seen in Schoettgen. This is one of the most important exhortations in the whole of this excellent sermon. By a secret and criminal disposition of nature, man endeavors to elevate himself above others, and, to do it more effectually, depresses them. His jealous and envious heart wishes that there may be no good quality found but in himself, that he alone may be esteemed. Such is the state of every unconverted man; and it is from this criminal disposition, that evil surmises, rash judgments, precipitate decisions, and all other unjust procedures against our neighbor, flow.

    Gill states:
    Mat 7:1 – Judge not, that ye be not judged. This is not to be understood of any sort of judgment; not of judgment in the civil courts of judicature, by proper magistrates, which ought to be made and pass, according to the nature of the case; nor of judgment in the churches of Christ, where offenders are to be called to an account, examined, tried, and dealt with according to the rules of the Gospel; nor of every private judgment, which one man may make upon another, without any detriment to him; but of rash judgment, interpreting men’s words and deeds to the worst sense, and censuring them in a very severe manner; even passing sentence on them, with respect to their eternal state and condition. Good is the advice given by the famous Hillell (u), who lived a little before Christ’s time;

    ‘Do not judge thy neighbour, (says he,) until thou comest into his place.’

    It would be well, if persons subject to a censorious spirit, would put themselves in the case and circumstances the persons are in they judge; and then consider, what judgment they would choose others should pass on them. The argument Christ uses to dissuade from this evil, which the Jews were very prone to, is, ‘that ye be not judged’; meaning, either by men, for such censorious persons rarely have the good will of their fellow creatures, but are commonly repaid in the same way; or else by God, which will be the most awful and tremendous: for such persons take upon them the place of God, usurp his prerogative, as if they knew the hearts and states of men; and therefore will have judgment without mercy at the hands of God.

    Perhaps, now, you can see the value of using commentaries in bible study.

  • Good Grief by Granger E. Westberg

    GoodGriefGrangerEWestberg.jpgI’ve just ordered myself a book that sounds interesting and helpful. It is called Good Grief by Granger E. Westberg. It deals with the ten stages of grief: shock, emotion, depression, physical distress, panic, guilt, anger, resistance, hope, and finally, acceptance.

    I’m helping I’ll get something out of this book to help me through the grieving process and the loss of my Dad. It has some very good reviews.

    Here is a short introduction about the book:

    We spend a good portion of our lives working diligently to acquire those things that make life rich and meaningful -friends, a wife or husband, children, a home, a job. material comforts, money (let’s face it), and security. What happens to us when we lose any of these persons or things which are so important to us?

    Quite naturally we grieve over the loss of anything important. Sometimes, if the loss is great, the very foundations of our life are shaken, and we are thrown into deep despair. Because we know so little about the nature of grief, we become panicky when it strikes us, and this serves to throw us deeper into despondency. What ought we to know about the ‘grief process,’ so that we can better cope with it?

    Does people’s faith have anything to do with the way they grieve over whatever it is they lose? For instance, when we lose a job, or lose a loving friend, or fail in school, or are disliked by the people at the office because of our unpopular convictions, does our grief at these times have anything to do with our faith?

    Faith plays a major role in grief of any kind. But not in the way some people think. They often seem to have the idea that a person with strong faith does not grieve and is above this sort of thing. Moreover, these people imply that religious faith advocates stoicism. They might even quote the two words from Scripture, “Grieve not!” They forget to quote the rest of the phrase in which these two words are found: “Grieve not as those who have no hope” (I Thess. 4:13).

    But religious faith–at least the Jewish-Christian faith–has never said that a truly religious person does not grieve. What it has said is that there are good ways and bad ways to grieve, and that what a person considers to be of most importance in life will definitely affect the way he or she grieves.

    My Followup: I read this book within about 1/2 an hour and really can’t say that I found much useful information in it. It was mainly just common sense. I didn’t find anything helpful about ‘working’ through grief.